Why You Can't See the Abuse: It’s Not the Incident, It’s the Pattern

Survivor to Survivor — “The Incident Isn’t the Story. The Pattern Is.” When people ask a survivor, “What happened?” they’re often looking for one moment. One fight. One threat. One incident that explains everything. But domestic violence isn’t always about one incident. Sometimes the real story is the pattern—the control, intimidation, manipulation, apologies, promises, blame, fear, and repeated behaviors that slowly change the way someone lives their life. In this episode of Survivor to Survivor, Tara talks about why looking at an isolated incident can… Video by YouTube channel.